Help your elderly parents protect their assets by talking with them about what they have, ensuring that you can act on their behalf if needed, and engaging the right experts to handle financial and legal matters. Financial advisors and elder law attorneys understand financial issues specific to aging and can help ensure that your loved ones can use their assets as they’d intended. Becoming an effective advocate for your loved ones takes time, but you can take some practical steps now to protect them from the fraud, exploitation, and abuse that affects so many elderly people.
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Before you take any actions, it’s important to learn what assets your parents have and what they’d hoped to do with them. Experts recommend having financial conversations early, while your parents still control their finances. It can also be helpful to talk about these topics over time rather than trying to fit everything into one discussion. Some questions that may be helpful to explore include:
Keep the conversation simple and focused on what your loved ones want. Because emotions can easily spike when discussing something as sensitive as finances, give yourselves time to process concerns and suggestions.
One way to stay on top of what’s happening with your loved one’s assets is to have view-only access to their bills and bank accounts. That way you can spot any issues that arise, such as unexplained charges, withdrawals, or other activities.
You may also decide to become what’s known as a trusted contact for your loved ones’ banking accounts.[01] As a trusted contact, you’ll be able to speak with their bankers if they’re unable to reach your loved ones or if they have concerns about fraud. Trusted contacts are only able to communicate about an account holder. They aren’t empowered to act on the account holder’s behalf.
It may also make sense to open a joint banking account with your loved ones, although there are important pros and cons to consider for you and for them.
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As your parents’ agent appointed under a durable POA, you’ll be able to act on their behalf in financial and legal matters if they’re incapacitated. A POA document can be shared with any company, organization, or facility your parents use, so you can communicate with them on your parents’ behalf. Some organizations, like banks and other financial institutions, have their own POA form that they prefer their customers to use.
From tax shelters to irrevocable trusts, there are many ways to protect your parents’ assets once you understand how they’d hoped to use them. Financial and legal professionals can advise you and your parents on specific strategies for preserving and protecting their wealth.
A certified financial planner can teach you various ways to simplify your parents’ portfolio and how to set aside money for their long-term care needs. While there are different types of financial advisors, experts recommend hiring what’s known as a fiduciary. A fiduciary is an advisor who is required to act in their clients’ best interest. Fiduciaries charge a fee for their advice rather than rely on commissions they earn by selling financial products.
A financial planner can advise you and your parents on:
Certified elder law attorneys can review your loved one’s financial, legal, and medical documents to ensure they’re up-to-date and reflect their current wishes. They can also can advise you and your parents on:
If memory issues are a concern, it’s even more important to meet with professionals while loved ones are still legally competent. Planning in advance helps ensure you’re all prepared in case of a dementia diagnosis or other health decline.
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As your parents age, they are likely to become more susceptible to fraud and scams. According to the U.S. Department of Justice, financial fraud, abuse, and exploitation rob seniors of millions of dollars every year.[02] These crimes, which include scams that target seniors, can wipe out their assets, leaving them with little to no money.
You can quickly make your parents less vulnerable to people who would defraud or abuse them by taking these simple steps.[03] Talk with your parents first to make sure they’re comfortable with you:
Sibling conflicts over the best ways to care for parents are common, and you can’t force your siblings to help you. However, it’s important to at least talk with them about how to divide up the work of caring for your parents, how to use available funds, and other important decisions.
Putting your parents’ house in your name can simplify inheritance and planning for their future, but there are risks too. Consult with an estate planning or elder law attorney to ensure your parents can still be eligible for Medicaid, if needed, and understand the potential tax implications.
More than half of all states currently have filial responsibility, or duty of care, laws that make adult children financially responsible for their parents. However, enforcement of these laws is uncommon and handled differently by state. Speak to an elder law attorney if your state has these laws.
An estate planning or elder law attorney can help you establish an irrevocable trust or a Medicaid Asset Protection Trust. This helps ensure assets like your parents’ home are used as they intended. Long-term care insurance is another option in paying for senior care.
Consumer Financial Protection Bureau. Choosing a trusted contact person can help you protect your money.
U.S. Department of Justice. (2024, October). Annual Report to Congress on Department of Justice Activities to Combat Elder Fraud and Abuse.
Consumer Financial Protection Bureau. (2021, November). Preventing elder financial abuse: Guide for family and friends of people living in nursing homes and assisted living communities.
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